There are moments in life that are so deeply wounding, that we know we won’t be the same Human anymore. There was The-Human-We-Used-To-Be and then there is The-Human-We-Are-Now. It doesn’t matter what the situation is that delivers this pain to our doorstep — Goddess knows — there are millions of ways to wound a Human heart. Trauma, abuse, failed relationships, grief, brutality, rejection — the list is endless. And this is just personal pain, if we look at global pain — war, climate change, extinction, political malefice, greed, persecution, genocide…well, you get the idea.
How do Humans even function in a world that is literally landmined with suffering?
Some armor up. They strap themselves into their heaviest shields and hope for the best. They do their best to control the odds of being devastated. They ignore what they can and use as little peripheral vision as possible. They are the soldiers who do battle with life every single day of their lives.
Others don rose-colored glasses and refuse to acknowledge the reality of Human existence. They search diligently for silver linings or lessons from their experiences. They convince themselves that in the end, everything will turn out just fine. If they can just hold on long enough — they will be rewarded with a happy ending. They are the innocents who see their existence as a decades-long fairy tale come to life.
Then there are those who are so deeply affected, they lose themselves. They sink into hopelessness and despair. They see only the pain and they see it everywhere. They live their lives in fear, waiting for the other shoe to drop, for the next catastrophe to arrive. They are the frightened who see life as the dangerous sport it is.
The thing is — all of them are marginally correct. Because Life changes. It changes all the time. Never in our control, rarely with a happy ending, but usually not with obliteration. Life simply is. And our experience here as Humans is completely universal. I don’t care where you live, the color of your skin, what your social status is, or how much money is in your stock portfolio. None of it makes a difference. Not your race, not your ethnicity, not your gender, and not your age.