It happened this morning as I was walking into work.
She was quite a bit ahead of me. I’m not sure if she was a patient or an employee. I’d guess an employee — she had that Casual Friday feel about her. The first thing I noticed was she had on a lovely navy blue shirt with white flowers — little tiny ones.
And brown pants.
The Fashion Police in my brain sounded their alarms! Wait — WTF?!?! I don’t even HAVE Fashion Police!!! Never have had Fashion Police. But there it was. That horrible icky feeling those of us attempting to do this Life thing with some sense of Love and Acceptance are working hard to weed out. Judgment.
Over the color choices of a stranger’s Casual Friday Attire.
I could hear The Universe chuckling — not because of The Judgement — but because I had called myself out. And found myself to be so damned silly.
I took another look at the woman — still many feet in front of me. Only this time — I really looked at her. As a Fellow Traveler. A Human — just like me — heading into work. On a Full Moon Casual Friday the 13th.
This time I noticed her beautiful blonde hair. Just below shoulder length — it was stunning. My thoughts immediately tuned into this. I pondered it’s shine as the morning sun made it glow. I wondered how often she was complimented on it and lamented the fact I would never overtake her in time to be able to do just that.
Instead, I sent her all the good mojo I could muster. I mentally complimented her beauty. I told her how much I appreciated The Gift I had been given this morning — just by following her into work. I blessed her, her loved ones, and her day.
Then I thought long and hard about how many times our first responses to strangers is this phenomenon. To see what it is about them we want to criticize instead of focusing on something to compliment.
I spent the rest of day changing this thought process in My Life.
I peered at every Human today with a fresh perspective.
I told my surgeon I liked his tie — it had soccer balls on it. I complimented our OR scheduler on her dress. I said good morning and smiled and wished, “Happy Friday!” to complete strangers.
I did not once sigh in resignation over All. The. Things.
Was my day better for it? Of course, it was! Life is an echo — but Life also echos the unseen vibes we put out as well as our words and our deeds. It’s a package deal. Our thoughts and our judgments play a role along with our actions.
Right now we are living in a world with over 7.5 billion people putting out vibes of fear, isolation, hatred, racism, and judgment. Can you imagine the change we can make — at this moment if we began with ourselves — in this small way?
If we just committed to looking at each Human we encounter completely without judgment. It’s damn hard — let me tell you.
Look at the person on the street asking for your dollars. Do not let your mind even ponder a judgment about their situation or how they could ‘fix’ it. Find something to compliment — to be kind about — to embrace them in your heart — a something so that when you look at them you feel delight/joy/love.
Look at a person suffering or dying from an illness. Do not let your mind ponder the negativity. Do not let your mind even ponder a judgment about their situation or how they could ‘fix’ it. Find something to compliment — to be kind about — to embrace them in your heart — a something so that when you look at them you feel delight/joy/love.
Look at a person who is different than you. Race/gender/creed/social or financial status. Do not let your mind even ponder a judgment about their situation or how they could ‘fix’ it. Find something to compliment — to be kind about — to embrace them in your heart — a something so that when you look at them you feel delight/joy/love.
This is how we move forward from The Fear. The Hatred. The Judgment.
We change our internal landscape. One thought at a time.