The relationships I’ve had — which have lasted the longest — have been with men who were my friends first. The knowledge of who they were from jump helped I think before all the messy stuff came along. You could TRUST them because you already knew they weren’t serial killers. But in truth, I’m much better at being a ‘Friend of Man’ than I am at being a Girlfriend. I have very bad allergies so I can’t keep pets anymore. However, I once told a friend of mine who has a couple cats (she had been disappointed in me when I started dated again after a sabbatical) — “Well, you know? If I could keep cats —I wouldn’t need to date at all!” She agreed. LOL

Self discovery in progress, stay tuned