Thank you Julia for sharing this very painful part of adulting. The complex relationship we have with our parents starts, stops, ends, and is reborn over the whole of our lives. In the back of our minds — we are born knowing we will outlive them. It’s in our DNA and the basis of every child’s fear of abandonment. How the end comes is never easy even — as in my case with my father — there is great relief that chapter of your life has at long last closed.