When I was in the Brownies there was a song which went some thing like this, “Make new friends, but keep the old. One is like silver — the other is gold.” But that does not adequately define some relationships.
Gold is a very, very precious commodity. But it’s soft, malleable, weak. Now diamonds — diamonds on the other hand are one of the most precious, most durable minerals in the world. Diamonds are used in industrial drills for their strength. Diamonds cut through things…like glass. And bullshit.
The oldest friend I have and the relationship we share reaches back into the roots of our childhoods. She gets me. I get her. We have withstood the pressures of All The Things from All The Times of our lives. And those experiences have made us — stronger, brighter, shiner, more brillant together.
We are bonded in a way that simply can not be repeated in this lifetime. I don’t have forty-seven more years to give to a relationship. No one else will ever see all the facets of my life that existed in space and time the way she does.
She is my history keeper. The witness to so many years of my life when I was lost, and new at being a human. She sees me and never flinches. She has seen my pain, my scars, my ugly crying face, and all my falling flat on said face moments. She has loved me through them all. She is My Person — taking all of me in and reflecting back her vision of who I really am through a prism of love and acceptance.
According to the Urban Dictionary (and they are never wrong) a Soul Mate is this — “A soulmate is someone who you carry with you forever. It’s the one person who knew you, and accepted you, and believed in you before anyone else did or when no one else would. And no matter what happens..you’ll always love them.”
Check. She is this. The very first person who saw me way back in Ms. Boyton’s homeroom class in 7th grade. She has been seeing Real Ann ever since.
If you are fortunate, really, really fortunate — The Universe blesses you with such a friend. Someone whose loyalty you never have to doubt. Someone to whom you can turn and be completely yourself — even all the parts you find most unsettling. And you will still be loved and accepted. Because — they know. They know your darkness and your light. And they love you in spite of that, or maybe even because of it.