My thoughts are these — you’re winning at parenting if your kids take different shit to their therapists than you do. :) Being a divorced mom here’s the deal… you will get the crap. Because you are the safe one. They want their other parent’s attention & affection and will not seek to offend them. But you — you’re safe. They can leave all their stuff on your doorstep knowing you will still love them. No matter what. When my kids were unkind to or ignored me — I always thought — ah ha — they feel the safety net… because we do not share our dark side with just anyone. Hold on loosely — but don’t let go. Everyone needs their safety net. Namaste.