My significant other is out of town this weekend. And I know it sounds odd, but I was rather looking forward to it. Because when he’s gone I miss him. And I happen to think a little longing for each other in a relationship is a good thing.

It isn’t that I don’t appreciate him when he’s here, or we don’t have a great time together. We do. We do all of that. I’m kind of crazy about him. However — that old adage about absence making the heart grow fonder — those people were on to something!

I am a firm believer of choosing your person. Every. Day. Every. Damn. Day. A relationship is not a default setting. You didn’t just fall into this thing and let it settle in on idle. I want someone who wakes up every day and chooses to be with me. And I make that same choice. Every. Day. Consciously. If you can’t do that, if I’m an after thought— I’m out.

But when one or the other person is away for a bit, that’s when you find out. Do you miss them? Do you notice? Do they notice? I got up this morning and went to work as usual and I missed him. I’ll continue to miss his physical presence in my world right up until his plane lands. In a couple weeks I have a trip planned and the shoe will be on the other foot. I’m 100% sure, he will miss me when I’m out of town too.

Because we chose each other. Every. Damn. Day.

Self discovery in progress, stay tuned