I've actually relaxed a lot as I've gotten older. Being Nana to the Magical Creatures helped me understand that I have a deep depth of patience & love available to me when I choose to tap into it. But also - I've had firm boundaries for most of my life & no one loves you for that - I can tell you! But holding boundaries with kindness is a life long learning process. It's a balance for me. Thank you for this great piece filled with excellent advice!