It's a process. Society doesn't help us at any point in our development. We aren't encouraged to take care of ourselves when we are younger - and yet, we are still vilified for aging. The most important piece of self-care is to shush our inner critic. We are Human - which means we are not perfect. We will all make missteps - we will all have Oh Crap! moments. Shoulda, woulda, coulda - those are where life teaches us our lessons. Personally - I don't see anything wrong with your reply. I see it as an attempt at conversation - connection with a new Human. And truly - thanks to the pandemic - we're all a little out of practice with that. ;)