I’m so sorry. I never had much luck on those sites either — but I’m an old chick. I assume I’ve just aged out of dating all together. :) I know several people who have actually met, dated, & married people from on line dating sites. That’s how we got one of my sons-in-law in truth. And he’s swell. We’re going to keep him.
So yes — there is hope. But it’s hard. ALL of dating is hard. I love the book — Outrageous Openness. It tells us that The Universe already has our perfect partner picked out & we can just chill. When the time is right — they’ll show up. I started thinking along those lines and my life got about a million times easier.
Good Luck! And May The Force Be With You!