I would have loved to high light this whole post. I have found that most out bursts I have send waves out into the cosmos which come back to me with such force as to nearly knock me over. My anger can be pretty potent. I try to use it sparingly — I am a scary chick.
However — I do believe men (and women) should be held responsible for their actions. I can cuss with the best of them (OR nurse) and that will usually get a man’s attention. My favorite line — delivered — without angst, stone cold & calm — is this.
“Touch me again Mother F#*C*#* and you’ll pull back a bloody stump. We clear?” And then smile.
Because men are more afraid of women who aren’t angry — but are secure in their power. I promise you — you’ll never hear from those men again. That will be the end of it.
He’ll tell you he was just kidding. You tell him — you’re not. And smile again. He’ll get uncomfortable. You’ll pay for your drink and head on home. Gracefully. No anger — no angst — with just a slight sigh of disappointment. And you let Karma find him later.