I wasn’t talking about grudges. And I wasn’t talking about staying open to new things. It’s about letting go of the things that need to go. That’s a skill that’s really hard. It’s about hanging on to things that no longer server your greater good instead of freeing yourself. It’s about being ok with getting what you need instead of waiting for someone to notice your just standing there holding the thread. Women do that a lot — wait on men to notice them. Perhaps it different for men.
But writing is like any other art. People take away what they need — not necessarily what the creator was creating. :)