I understand your conundrum. I, too, have always found the truth - no matter how painful - to be so much easier to heal from than even a well intentioned lie. But I am unique in that. Denial - the very first stage of all human grieving allows us to reside in a lie for a time and ease into truth. Sometimes people don't move on from denial. And it is their journey, not for us to inoculate them with a truth they are unable to grasp. There is a fine line - and with every decision we face - no one universal answer. I wish you the best in your search to resolve this troubling situation.