I have found — if you open your hand & the thread of the relationship simply unravels — it’s apparent no one on the other side was holding on to it very well. When I read your comment about your ‘friend’ reading you the riot act for being out of touch for 8 months — my first thought was something my mother always said —’ The road on that runs both ways’. Its a 2 way street. She has been just as out of touch with YOU for those months obviously. So…there was no high moral ground for her to stand on. You were not the designated keeper of the keys to your friendship. I remind myself of that at times too. They have to reach back — or else reaching out all the time just drains the shit out of you. Excellent post! Thank you so much for sharing a hard truth about aging well! Sometimes we keep growing when our friends are content to stagnate.