Per Merriam-Webster, there are several definitions for the word closure. But here’s the one I want to talk about today.
an often comforting or satisfying sense of finality
Closure, in my mind, is a bit of a conundrum to me. Something awful, traumatic, dramatic, or hurtful happens in life and society insists we must seek closure of the wound inflicted. And it tells us to look to the event/Human who caused our pain to heal that wound.
I’m sorry — but that’s crazy.
Stay with me for a moment…
Peace with the events of life does not lie outside of us, out of our control, and in the hands of our tormentors. Resolving hurts, healing wounds, and accepting circumstances beyond our control is a life skill we hold within our own souls.
In fact, it is vital we learn this life skill and learn it well.
Because in the course of a life, there are simply too many uncloseable events. Death, war, famine, disease…the list of Humanity’s suffering globally is vast. But even the more personal catastrophes leave their mark. Broken relationships, hidden grief, domestic abuse, addiction, financial…
