When I was on my cruise last week, I lost my hair clip. I really hate losing things. I mean REALLY hate losing things. I knew it was in the cabin — which by the way was approximately the size of my master bathroom here in North Carolina. I was sharing that space with my BFF — so there wasn’t a whole lot of leftover places where the damn thing could hide. But hide it did. For two days. I was annoyed as hell and on the verge of buying another one…somewhere… in the middle of the fucking Caribbean because — have you seen this hair? Plus humidity.
But then the lost hair clip appeared in a place I had looked for it at least six times and all was well.
The morale of this story: You will lose shit. And most of the time — you do not get it back. The Happy Hair Clip Ending is rare. Very very rare in life.
Life happens. It is a wonderful and breath taking joy filled adventure. But — you WILL lose things along the way. Things you thought you would get to keep till the end. We need to stop acting surprised when this occurs. Because Life changes. It is one of the cosmos-set-in-stone-never-to-be-taken-back-or-the-whole-thing-will-collapse-like-a-house-of-cards rules.
Everything will change. Loss is part of our pact with life. You can make book on it.
So many options for loss exist it’s impossible to even list them. Relationships, marriages, people, health, function, jobs, possessions, security, sanity — you get the idea. And in the end — we all move on to What Comes Next.
I once explained Death to my grand daughter this way — Everyone gets to die. Because we do. I didn’t want her to be afraid of this change. I wanted her to see Death as just another something she will get to do in her experience of Life.
We all get to die.
But in the meantime — we have to cope with the fact of the impermanence of All The Things. From our relationships to our hair clips.
Every time I wear my hair clip — I will remember to be thankful for my BFF who both partied with me on vacation and helped me tear that cabin apart looking for the missing hair clip. I will also be thankful for the resources I have which allowed me to take a vacation to such beautiful places. I will be thankful for the soul sucking job which provides me such security. I will be thankful for All The Humans in my life who love me and support me in All The Ways. I will be thankful for my health and each breath I take. I will be thankful for my sanity, such as it is.
The Dali Lama tells us, “There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called Yesterday and the other is called Tomorrow. Today is the right day to Love, Believe, Do and mostly Live.”
Embrace your now as it stands in this moment. Acknowledge the fact that tomorrow everything could be vastly different and be grateful for all the things you have not lost today.