My BFF recently said to me, “I think this is the happiest I’ve seen you in a while.” She was referring to my latest post-ghosting relationship recovery period. And you know? She’s right.
I am the lone single person in my tribe of women friends. The relationships come in all different shapes and sizes. Two of my friends are engaged and live with their fiancees. Another lives with her boyfriend, but marriage is not on the agenda. Yet another has mastered that whole Living Apart Together thing that has become so popular. Two are married. Though one might be a widow by now — from what I understand the latest round of marriage counseling was not going well. However, she didn’t text me to bring the shovel, tarp, and alibi — so I assume the man in question still breathes.
So the question this essay poses is simple — are we (women of a certain age) happier on our own? For me, the clear answer is a resounding, YES!! But mine is not a popular position in our society. Western society is built for couples.
However, we don’t have to buy into that bullshit. We can be happy — happier even — on our own.
I no longer place myself in danger by going out on first dates with men I met on the internet. Because in the words of Louis CK — going out with men is statistically the…
